Living With Alcoholism In A Marriage

Well, supposely this has been going on for years. My wife is currently living in her mother’s house, in south america. 2 of her sisters and her brother also live there with their husbands. Anyway one of them is an alcoholic and has anger issues when he gets drunk and goes crazy. My wife is a former stripper and her sister is a current stripper.

So when this guy gets drunk he calls them names like hoe, hookers ect…. HE tries to start fights with anyone who talks back to him and even makes my wife’s sister cry sometimes. He even punched one of their sisters once while drunk. I know what you might be thinking, why dont they kick them out. Well, their mother is on the moon. THey all want him out, but their mother feels sorry for him because he has nobody, but picking on their daughters is fine….. Oh yeah, and his wife also wants him there. I guess she’s used to the abuse. Everytime he crosses the line, they call the cops, but since the cops are bunch of lazy punks, and their country doesnt really do anything unless someone gets killed, they dont follow through with it. My wife told me she thinks he raped her while she was passed out because she sleept in his room once and her sister went out and her vigina was wet and the only guy in there was him. And one day the daughter of my wifes sister accused him of touching her, and nobody kicked him out.

I don’t know how they can stand this guy and act liek nothing happened after all this. Never seen this, but i blame the mother of my wife. It’s her house, but she’s not strong enough to enforce rules. Anyway, should i pay people to beat the hell out of this guy? im in the states now, but if i hear this guy crossed the line again i don;t know what ill do.

I plan to move my wife and stepdaughter when i get enough money.
My wife was 15 when she thinks she got raped. shes now 26

WOW! WHY DID you get married knowing you can not take care of your wife? why is she staying with her mother instead with you? to answer your question no i dont think you should paid someone to beat up that guy, you should be trying your best to save alot untill you reach whatever amount you need to have your wife and step daughter with you

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I drink at least a bottle of wine per night and I am a thin girl. I am 26 and live with my husband and when he is away I get real drunk at home on my own. I often don’t remember going to bed. I know this is bad but how bad is it?

There is a big assumption that everyone who has an issue with alcohol is an alcoholic, however you define that.

You may have an issue with alcohol. You may be abusing it, using it, dependant on it – I don’t know you so I cannot tell. Drinking rarely happens in a vacuum – it is not unusual to find it is a symptom of unhelpful cognitions. Please don’t jump in with the ‘you have a disease forever’ brigade.

I would take a look at smartrecovery.org, google Windy Dryden on Ebay and see if any of his book titles jump out and grab you, and think of counselling for your issues that underpin your drinking – preferably REBT based counselling if it appeals to you.

good luck

Since I last posted, things have gotten worse! I didn’t think it was possible! He went out to drink and was robbed by two guys. They stole his keys and cell phone and our car! He was hospitalized overnight and woke up still intoxicated in the hospital. I was there and he was yelling and cursing at me in front of the hospital staff! After he was released from the hospital, he went into a convenient store and downed a beer, I could not believe it! Than he was yelling at me on the street and in the cab to give him money to go buy a six pack of beer because he had a stressful night as a result of the robbery, etc. His Mom met me downstairs to help me as he was causing a huge scene. On the way into our building, he punched a metal door with his fist. After all this, he is still denying that he has a problem and is once again blaming his drinking on "stress." To me this sounds like another excuse! I am so angry at him and don’t know what to do. This was the final straw, yet he is once again trying to convince me that he will never do it again. Is there any hope or am I just fooling myself here?

Quit enabling him. He needs to detox and get A/A. You need to get involved with Alanon a support group for family members of alcoholics so that you can stop being part of the cycle. Pour out any alcohol that comes into the home until you either move out or kick him out. You can’t just make idle threats and ultimatums. You have to back it up with actions.

worked for a company for 10+ yrs and assistant to the president of the company. After his one year aniversary of soberity, the disarray in business applications is causing my job to become varied in job description. I’m not getting much help or answers. You can’t say anything about it, but it’s not helping #1 for the work environment when 75% of my day is calming those who don’t understand the scattered thoughts from him and the other 25% trying to resolve issues on my own, hoping I’ve made the right choices because I can’t get answers. She disapears and takes many "mental health" days and works after hours so there is no human contact and thoughts can be clearer. Should I stick with it, move on, say something or just keeping on doing what I need to do to keep the business a float on my end? How do I know this???? The wife of a recovered alcoholic (I know everyone has a different experience), but it’s like living with my husband after his first year. I LOVE my job, but need my sanity

Your responsibility isn’t to keep the company afloat. That’s the President’s responsibility. It’s surprising the company has stayed up for 10 years without any processes but some companies will succeed despite themselves.

Generally, I’ve found people tend to lack confidence when thinking about changing jobs. It’s a hard thing to do, but far from impossible. Are you paid well? Do you not think you could get equal or better compensation elsewhere?

I guess my answer is – no job is worth being miserable. There are others out there.

I have been living with him from 10 yrs.I have two kids,one boy 9 yrs old and one girl 3 yrs old.Ours was a love marriage.I am from a doctors family,I am also a good homoeopath,earning 20000\ month,We are living in our father-in -law’s house.My husband did many jobs but he never settled.Now he is practising a therapy on sick people which I do not think is working.He is using my name for it.He is very much mischievous,rude,demanding sex three times a day,as I have no appetite for sex.He wants to control me in all respects.He do not want me to talk with my relatives as he thinks they feed me wrong things.He is earning nothing at all.He take loan for paying his pending dues.But he love his children,play with them sometime,my father-in law also love and play with my children.This is the only thing which holds me back. My mother in law is very much selfish, rude, cunning,hateful,not having any affection with my children.She did not allow me to touch her household things when I came to her house from the very first day.I cook food separately for my family in my room.please suggest me what should I do?

It sounds like you need a good divorce lawyer. That is not a healthy environment for your children to be in and you need to leave at least for their sake.

I need some advice. My father-in-law who is from India is living with his wife in another state. He has been a chronic alcoholic for years and is getting worse so much so that my husband and I feel that he is not making rational decisions anymore. I am not from this culture so I need to know how people of Indian culture usually handle a situation like this. My husband is not of much help because I think he doesn’t want to really believe that his father is getting to this non-rational state and so avoids doing anything about it. I am worried because he drives taxi cab and maybe he will have an accident sooner or later. He is also letting his house become very decrepit. What can we or should we do?

When he does not live with you, why worry ? if you are really worried about him, you should ask him to stay with you, stop working and take care of him.

But your words do not really reflect *LOVE* for him. it is more of your natural hate towards him as daughter in law. just see the mirror and ask your self is Awasthi right ?

We have been separated for 2 years (this time). He does not drink that much anymore, but he is not in good health. He is only 41. I keep letting him come back, but he is a liar about all things. Sometimes its the things that he does not say and then other times its what he says. I have been to counseling and it just does not seem to work. Sometimes i feel Strong and then other moments I feel weak around him. How has anyone else out there dealt with this same situation. He has dabbled in drugs as well. I just don’t want my kids or myself around this anymore. He says that he doesn’t do it, but he has NO EMOTIONS about ANYTHING!! Please help!!!

You are making excuses for him – "he does not drink that much anymore". If he is an alcoholic, he needs to not drink at all anymore. You said that you tried counseling and "it doesn’t work". You are wrong. Counseling can and will work if you find the right counselor. It’s like dating. You don’t usually get it right the first time and need to continue looking until you find the right person who really gets you and knows how to help. Please go back into counseling. Look for someone warm and compassionate that isn’t afraid to get tough sometimes and will not hesitate to call you on it when you are bamboozling them (and yourself). You need to get away from your husband (permanently) and get your children away from him until he cleans up his act. By getting weak around him, you are are actually making things worse for him by sending the message that he has been a bad boy, but you will be there and accept whatever he dishes out no matter what. If you keep taking him back, you are condoning and allowing this behavior to continue. This is bad for your children and you need to put them first above him or this will ruin their lives.

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